Author
Karla Solano
The end of a relationship is always a hard thing to cope with because it could leave us feeling vulnerable, confused & not to mention broken hearted; these feelings are just fears and insecurities brought forth by our mind’s resistance to be open to change. While it is true that breaking up with someone we love can bring a tremendous amount of loss and sadness, it is important not to overlook at the fact that every time a chapter in our life ends it also brings with it life changing beginnings.
It is imperative not to get lost in the sadness and the chaos that the breakups may cause because as hard as it may be to see, every single thing that happens in our lives has a reason for being, a bigger purpose if you will. In the midst of our emotional chaos, we tend to get blinded by the drama and the reasons why the relationship ended. We dwell in the past and sometimes get stuck there, not realizing that we maybe passing on the opportunity to learn valuable lessons being offered by this experience.
Focusing on the good memories, and opening our hearts to connecting with that loving place we once experienced with the other person can be very powerful in helping with the process of forgiveness and healing, thus, helping us move forward to a much positive state of mind.
We are very resilient beings, and it is extremely important not to forget how strong we are when we are feeling out place and losing control by the emotional roller coaster of the breakup; it is also essential for our well being to recognize our emotions, allow them to be and explore them and ask ourselves what is it that I need to learn from this experience so the pattern doesn’t repeat itself in the next relationship I encounter? What is it that brings me joy? And what can I do to connect with that happiness again? What would my life be like if I let go of all the resentment I hold in my heart? What would it be like to put myself first and take care of my needs? What is stopping me from moving forward? These are all very powerful questions that can lead us to taking actions steps to create the life we are meant to have.
Life is like a roller coaster sometimes we are high up in the clouds and sometimes we are down hanging by a thread but it is up to us to roll with the punches or to let life walk all over us. The most amazing insight that I have realized through my ups and downs is that We as human beings have the power to choose whether to be happy or not, We have the power to create our own sacred environment in which to find refuge when we need to get centered, We have the power to change our limiting thoughts into confident dreams that can become a reality if we choose to go after them.
Breaking through the sadness, chaos and fears during the end of any relationship will not only help you connect with your personal power but it will also guide you in transforming your life into the life you are meant to live--a life full of infinite possibilities.—
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Saturday, July 17, 2010
Monday, July 12, 2010
Committing to Oneself
Author
Karla Solano
One of the most valuable things to do in life is to learn to commit to ourselves. Committing to oneself means to make a vow to create a life full of good intentions, a life where love is the primordial principle enveloping our existence with compassion and kindness. Committing to oneself means to really look within and explore our infinite potential, reflecting on who we really are and how we can become better human beings.
Learning to commit to oneself is the key to finding true happiness, because until we find out who we really are and truly become whole we will never be able to fully connect with others in a deep level. The truth of the matter is that no one will ever get to know “you” better than yourself so why leave it up to our material possessions, our jobs and the people around us define who we are? Connecting with our true essence allows us to see ourselves for who we really are, without titles, social status, race or religious background.
Knowing who we are empowers us to be confident, to express ourselves in creative ways, to not be afraid of showing our true colors; it allows us to be free from judgmental behaviors which hinder our ability to interact with others in a compassionate and respectful way.
Committing to create a life where we share true and meaningful experiences with others will not only bring fulfillment but it will also open up our hearts into allowing the flow of our true essence to come forth in everything we do. This true essence is our natural state of being which manifests our loving, creative and enlightened self; our true essence is what helps us get up and keep on going when the going gets tough and there is no one around to help us. This essence will never steer us in the wrong direction, on the contrary, it will always make sure we live a life full of right decisions, harmony and loving connections. But in order for this true essence to manifest, we must learn to overcome the habit of resisting the true connection with who really are.
So make a vow today, to commit to “you”, to explore all the wonderful ways in which you no longer need to hold on to people or outside circumstances that set you back from fully experiencing joy because the happiness and love you seek cannot be found unless you find them within yourself.
Karla Solano
One of the most valuable things to do in life is to learn to commit to ourselves. Committing to oneself means to make a vow to create a life full of good intentions, a life where love is the primordial principle enveloping our existence with compassion and kindness. Committing to oneself means to really look within and explore our infinite potential, reflecting on who we really are and how we can become better human beings.
Learning to commit to oneself is the key to finding true happiness, because until we find out who we really are and truly become whole we will never be able to fully connect with others in a deep level. The truth of the matter is that no one will ever get to know “you” better than yourself so why leave it up to our material possessions, our jobs and the people around us define who we are? Connecting with our true essence allows us to see ourselves for who we really are, without titles, social status, race or religious background.
Knowing who we are empowers us to be confident, to express ourselves in creative ways, to not be afraid of showing our true colors; it allows us to be free from judgmental behaviors which hinder our ability to interact with others in a compassionate and respectful way.
Committing to create a life where we share true and meaningful experiences with others will not only bring fulfillment but it will also open up our hearts into allowing the flow of our true essence to come forth in everything we do. This true essence is our natural state of being which manifests our loving, creative and enlightened self; our true essence is what helps us get up and keep on going when the going gets tough and there is no one around to help us. This essence will never steer us in the wrong direction, on the contrary, it will always make sure we live a life full of right decisions, harmony and loving connections. But in order for this true essence to manifest, we must learn to overcome the habit of resisting the true connection with who really are.
So make a vow today, to commit to “you”, to explore all the wonderful ways in which you no longer need to hold on to people or outside circumstances that set you back from fully experiencing joy because the happiness and love you seek cannot be found unless you find them within yourself.
Monday, June 7, 2010
Who am I?
Author
Karla Solano
This question has inspired great philosophers for centuries to go beyond their logical thought process and explore their consciousness to come up with an answer that will justify our existence in this vast universe. I have always been intrigued by this question since I was a child; I remember being fascinated with the knowing that we were beings with the capacity to think, speak and express our emotions in ways that no other living creature in our planet can.
Looking at our body’s composition from a physiological point of view we can see that we are made up of tiny little cells, atoms, molecules, water, hydrogen and electromagnetic waves of energy; not to mention all the wiring made up of our veins transporting blood & oxygen throughout our entire body. Every organ, muscle and bone in our body has a specific purpose for being in order for it to function with perfection; and it is mind boggling and marvelous to exist with the ability to use our rational and have a conscience to discern right from wrong.
We are a master piece created with a purpose for being more than just this perfect & complex physical body. We are not only flesh and bone but also lively beings vibrating energy and light, capable of transmuting energy from negative to positive and vice versa. We are the co-creators in this vast universe with infinite potential to make our existence in this planet a very peaceful and rewarding experience.
We must learn from the perfection of our body and the way it functions, since every part of our body is interconnected with each other they all depend on one another to work in synchronistic order. By understanding this simple principle of inter connection within our body one cannot help but realize how dependent we are from one another as a human race and although we are individual beings made up of light, energy and matter capable to function on our own we cannot survive in this universe if we continue to alienate ourselves from each other.
We are one collective source of perfection and as such we need to work together in becoming an evolved race full of love, peace and elevated intelligence.
So who am I? I am the sun, I am the stars, I am the universe, I am the infinite, I am all that exists and everything contained in the universe is in me & in you because we are all one.
Karla Solano
This question has inspired great philosophers for centuries to go beyond their logical thought process and explore their consciousness to come up with an answer that will justify our existence in this vast universe. I have always been intrigued by this question since I was a child; I remember being fascinated with the knowing that we were beings with the capacity to think, speak and express our emotions in ways that no other living creature in our planet can.
Looking at our body’s composition from a physiological point of view we can see that we are made up of tiny little cells, atoms, molecules, water, hydrogen and electromagnetic waves of energy; not to mention all the wiring made up of our veins transporting blood & oxygen throughout our entire body. Every organ, muscle and bone in our body has a specific purpose for being in order for it to function with perfection; and it is mind boggling and marvelous to exist with the ability to use our rational and have a conscience to discern right from wrong.
We are a master piece created with a purpose for being more than just this perfect & complex physical body. We are not only flesh and bone but also lively beings vibrating energy and light, capable of transmuting energy from negative to positive and vice versa. We are the co-creators in this vast universe with infinite potential to make our existence in this planet a very peaceful and rewarding experience.
We must learn from the perfection of our body and the way it functions, since every part of our body is interconnected with each other they all depend on one another to work in synchronistic order. By understanding this simple principle of inter connection within our body one cannot help but realize how dependent we are from one another as a human race and although we are individual beings made up of light, energy and matter capable to function on our own we cannot survive in this universe if we continue to alienate ourselves from each other.
We are one collective source of perfection and as such we need to work together in becoming an evolved race full of love, peace and elevated intelligence.
So who am I? I am the sun, I am the stars, I am the universe, I am the infinite, I am all that exists and everything contained in the universe is in me & in you because we are all one.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Anxiety and Meditation
Written by
Karla Solano
What is anxiety?
•Anxiety, anxiousness ((psychiatry) a relatively permanent state of worry and nervousness occurring in a variety of mental disorders, usually accompanied by compulsive behavior or attacks of panic). A vague unpleasant emotion that is experienced in anticipation of some (usually ill-defined) misfortune)
We all experience anxiety at one point or another in our lives; the constant state of emergency which we live in causes our stress levels to rise and our defense mechanism to drop, thus, causing our body to reach a breaking point when faced with difficult experiences.
Anxiety is a form of fear and worry; these feelings are just energy, in this case it is energy that causes a negative emotion. Since energy is transmutable it can be altered to its opposite state of being. It is important to keep in mind that we have the power to change this negative energy into positive energy that can bring us peace and pure bliss. We just need to learn to expand our minds and recognize this power of change within ourselves. This is when meditation comes to play an important part of our lives, because it can help us transform our inner turmoil into peace and it can also give us clarity of mind and a true connection with our natural state of being.
Anxiety & meditation
Deep, relaxed breathing by itself can help reduce high levels of stress. This helps you get plenty of oxygen and activates the relaxation response, which is the body’s antidote to stress.
Other ways to reduce stress and anxiety include but are not limited to:
•Listening to relaxing music, spending time in nature, reading a book, dancing, playing with a pet and children, talking to a close friend, finding time to laugh and be youthful.
10 minutes of deep breathing meditation
The best way to deal with anxiety at the moment we feel it creep up is to maintain calm, close your eyes for a few minutes and take deep breaths. Count 1 as you inhale, 2 as you exhale, 3 as you inhale and so forth & so on. Do this exercise for 10 counts. Become aware of your breath going in through the nose and out the nose. Do not follow the breath through your lungs. Just keep focusing on the refreshing feeling of the breathing, put the palm of your left hand in your heart and connect with the beating of your heart as you breathe, feel the rhythm of the heart synchronize & slow down as you begin to center yourself.
Keep breathing in and out, if thoughts of worry or fear begin to distract you, let them be, notice them and let them go as you continue to count your breaths. Do this for as long as you need to, until you feel the anxiety, fears and worries slowly dissipate.
Karla Solano
What is anxiety?
•Anxiety, anxiousness ((psychiatry) a relatively permanent state of worry and nervousness occurring in a variety of mental disorders, usually accompanied by compulsive behavior or attacks of panic). A vague unpleasant emotion that is experienced in anticipation of some (usually ill-defined) misfortune)
We all experience anxiety at one point or another in our lives; the constant state of emergency which we live in causes our stress levels to rise and our defense mechanism to drop, thus, causing our body to reach a breaking point when faced with difficult experiences.
Anxiety is a form of fear and worry; these feelings are just energy, in this case it is energy that causes a negative emotion. Since energy is transmutable it can be altered to its opposite state of being. It is important to keep in mind that we have the power to change this negative energy into positive energy that can bring us peace and pure bliss. We just need to learn to expand our minds and recognize this power of change within ourselves. This is when meditation comes to play an important part of our lives, because it can help us transform our inner turmoil into peace and it can also give us clarity of mind and a true connection with our natural state of being.
Anxiety & meditation
Deep, relaxed breathing by itself can help reduce high levels of stress. This helps you get plenty of oxygen and activates the relaxation response, which is the body’s antidote to stress.
Other ways to reduce stress and anxiety include but are not limited to:
•Listening to relaxing music, spending time in nature, reading a book, dancing, playing with a pet and children, talking to a close friend, finding time to laugh and be youthful.
10 minutes of deep breathing meditation
The best way to deal with anxiety at the moment we feel it creep up is to maintain calm, close your eyes for a few minutes and take deep breaths. Count 1 as you inhale, 2 as you exhale, 3 as you inhale and so forth & so on. Do this exercise for 10 counts. Become aware of your breath going in through the nose and out the nose. Do not follow the breath through your lungs. Just keep focusing on the refreshing feeling of the breathing, put the palm of your left hand in your heart and connect with the beating of your heart as you breathe, feel the rhythm of the heart synchronize & slow down as you begin to center yourself.
Keep breathing in and out, if thoughts of worry or fear begin to distract you, let them be, notice them and let them go as you continue to count your breaths. Do this for as long as you need to, until you feel the anxiety, fears and worries slowly dissipate.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Living for today
Author
Karla Solano
The universe has a way of bringing very special & joyful moments into our lives every minute of our existence here on earth...Those wonderful experiences are very meaningful when we submerge ourselves completely to that moment in time, living it to the fullest and without limitations. Realizing that today is all we have makes it even more special because we can stop obsessing about what tomorrow may bring.
Living for today really means to take every second of our day and savor it with love, gratitude and joy. Imagine for a moment that you only had today to live, wouldn’t you want to make sure everything you did, you did in a meaningful way? Instead of rushing through life to get us nowhere, in fact the only place we are rushing to get to is our death bed; because stressing over every little thing only brings us more suffering and disease.
We live in a constant race against time, going through the motions without really paying attention to what we are doing. We wake up in the morning and start our routine by rushing out of bed to get ready as quickly as we can to get to work, or school, and we barely take the time to really enjoy a healthy breakfast in the morning and if we do make time for breakfast is a rushed cup of coffee as we travel to work. How can we say that we are living life if we are in this constant state of emergency?
We must bear in mind that living mindfully is key in order to have a fulfilled existence and it is up to us to make sure that our life doesn’t pass us by without really embracing it and making the time to fully experience it.
There is nothing more precious than taking time to smell a flower and really connect with the fragrance, the texture, the colors and the beauty the flower has to offer, or how about really eating our meals enjoying what we are eating, chewing and really tasting every flavor without being on the phone or watching television? Or how about really listening when someone is talking to us instead of texting someone else at the same time? We are so used to multitasking that we have forgotten how to focus our attention on one thing at a time.
We all know how distracting life can be but we cannot and must not allow the constant distraction gear us away from fully submerging ourselves in having a true connection with our every day experiences. The truth of the matter is that if we don’t fully immerse ourselves in the things we do, we run the risk of living a life without deep connection, barely tapping on the surface of what true living is all about.
All I can say is that no matter how hectic our life may get, we have to make a conscious commitment to ourselves to not waste any minute of our existence here on earth, and by this I mean not wasting a second to fully engage in a deep state of connection with everything we do. Because we have not lived life until we have learned to live mindfully; so start today, take one experience at a time and enjoy it, fully embrace it and feel your way through life instead of rushing through it.
Karla Solano
The universe has a way of bringing very special & joyful moments into our lives every minute of our existence here on earth...Those wonderful experiences are very meaningful when we submerge ourselves completely to that moment in time, living it to the fullest and without limitations. Realizing that today is all we have makes it even more special because we can stop obsessing about what tomorrow may bring.
Living for today really means to take every second of our day and savor it with love, gratitude and joy. Imagine for a moment that you only had today to live, wouldn’t you want to make sure everything you did, you did in a meaningful way? Instead of rushing through life to get us nowhere, in fact the only place we are rushing to get to is our death bed; because stressing over every little thing only brings us more suffering and disease.
We live in a constant race against time, going through the motions without really paying attention to what we are doing. We wake up in the morning and start our routine by rushing out of bed to get ready as quickly as we can to get to work, or school, and we barely take the time to really enjoy a healthy breakfast in the morning and if we do make time for breakfast is a rushed cup of coffee as we travel to work. How can we say that we are living life if we are in this constant state of emergency?
We must bear in mind that living mindfully is key in order to have a fulfilled existence and it is up to us to make sure that our life doesn’t pass us by without really embracing it and making the time to fully experience it.
There is nothing more precious than taking time to smell a flower and really connect with the fragrance, the texture, the colors and the beauty the flower has to offer, or how about really eating our meals enjoying what we are eating, chewing and really tasting every flavor without being on the phone or watching television? Or how about really listening when someone is talking to us instead of texting someone else at the same time? We are so used to multitasking that we have forgotten how to focus our attention on one thing at a time.
We all know how distracting life can be but we cannot and must not allow the constant distraction gear us away from fully submerging ourselves in having a true connection with our every day experiences. The truth of the matter is that if we don’t fully immerse ourselves in the things we do, we run the risk of living a life without deep connection, barely tapping on the surface of what true living is all about.
All I can say is that no matter how hectic our life may get, we have to make a conscious commitment to ourselves to not waste any minute of our existence here on earth, and by this I mean not wasting a second to fully engage in a deep state of connection with everything we do. Because we have not lived life until we have learned to live mindfully; so start today, take one experience at a time and enjoy it, fully embrace it and feel your way through life instead of rushing through it.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Family--our deep foundation and life long support
Author
Karla Solano
As we get older life tends to become more complex and sometimes the experiences become difficult to endure. We begin to see our parents get older and more fragile; and it becomes hard to grasp the idea that one day they might no longer be here to give us their love and support. I, for one, had never thought of the day that they may no longer exist on this physical plane; because in my mind I still think they are strong and healthy. But life has a way of showing you how things could change in a split second, when you least expect it.
Today’s events have made me realize how much my family means to me so I would like to share a moment in time when I realized that there is nothing more powerful than the bond family can give…
A simple fall on an icy road can make any strong man feel vulnerable, especially when he sees that a fractured leg will impede him from going about his daily business as easily as he used to; and yet he maintains a strong façade in order not to show his daughters how hurt he really is inside. As I look into his eyes I see sadness and a sense of worry to hear that his leg needs to be operated on. As I look around the room I see my sisters, mom and I just being next to my dad, giving each other emotional support, expressing pure love without saying it and it makes my heart warm to know that no matter how worried we all are, the strength of our love will help him feel strong during this time when he feels the most vulnerable.
I know everything will be ok and with time he will heal, but while I’m going through this experience I can’t help but realize that we must cherish every waking moment with love, gratitude and peace; Enjoying those precious moments with our family, making sure to always show our affection and our appreciation for the strong love bond and foundation that they have given us. Learning to forgive anything that may have caused us to drift away from them and making an effort to re-connect with that life-long support called family.
Family is the most precious thing we can have, for they are always there by our side during tough times and happy experiences. The love and support of our family has no comparison and should be cherished with the utmost respect and care.
I urge all of you to take a moment and make a conscious effort to be expressive of your love for your family. Don’t let a day go by without letting them know how wonderful it is to have them in your life. And if you haven’t talked to your family in awhile, leave your pride aside and show them how much you have missed them and re-connect with them. Life is too short so don’t wait until is too late to let those important people in your life know how much they really mean to you.
Karla Solano
As we get older life tends to become more complex and sometimes the experiences become difficult to endure. We begin to see our parents get older and more fragile; and it becomes hard to grasp the idea that one day they might no longer be here to give us their love and support. I, for one, had never thought of the day that they may no longer exist on this physical plane; because in my mind I still think they are strong and healthy. But life has a way of showing you how things could change in a split second, when you least expect it.
Today’s events have made me realize how much my family means to me so I would like to share a moment in time when I realized that there is nothing more powerful than the bond family can give…
A simple fall on an icy road can make any strong man feel vulnerable, especially when he sees that a fractured leg will impede him from going about his daily business as easily as he used to; and yet he maintains a strong façade in order not to show his daughters how hurt he really is inside. As I look into his eyes I see sadness and a sense of worry to hear that his leg needs to be operated on. As I look around the room I see my sisters, mom and I just being next to my dad, giving each other emotional support, expressing pure love without saying it and it makes my heart warm to know that no matter how worried we all are, the strength of our love will help him feel strong during this time when he feels the most vulnerable.
I know everything will be ok and with time he will heal, but while I’m going through this experience I can’t help but realize that we must cherish every waking moment with love, gratitude and peace; Enjoying those precious moments with our family, making sure to always show our affection and our appreciation for the strong love bond and foundation that they have given us. Learning to forgive anything that may have caused us to drift away from them and making an effort to re-connect with that life-long support called family.
Family is the most precious thing we can have, for they are always there by our side during tough times and happy experiences. The love and support of our family has no comparison and should be cherished with the utmost respect and care.
I urge all of you to take a moment and make a conscious effort to be expressive of your love for your family. Don’t let a day go by without letting them know how wonderful it is to have them in your life. And if you haven’t talked to your family in awhile, leave your pride aside and show them how much you have missed them and re-connect with them. Life is too short so don’t wait until is too late to let those important people in your life know how much they really mean to you.
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Honoring the Sacred Being Within everyone
Author
Karla Solano
Namaste is an ancient Sanskrit word used to salute one another in Buddhist and Hindu religions. This salutation is very meaningful in the sense that it allows us to connect with other human beings in a much deeper level….at the soul level; where the heart truly opens up and surrenders completely, leaving the ego aside to allow the blossoming union between two individuals.
Namaste means “'I honor that place in you where the whole Universe resides.
And when I am in that place in me and you are in that place in you, there is only one of us.'
Namaste recognizes the equality of everyone, and pays honor and respect to the sacredness of all things. Connecting with the sacred being within each person we encounter is a very powerful way to bond with others because it allows us to put focus on the beauty and greatness that we all are capable of being, instead of the flaws created by the illusion of our egos.
When we connect with others from our heart in an energetically deeper level, we can create a very peaceful and loving environment for ourselves. I can speak from personal experience and I can honestly say that I’ve had to deal with very difficult people throughout my life as we all have, but until I began to fully comprehend and practice this concept of honoring the sacred being within each person, my relationships with those who I had a tough time dealing with have effortlessly become easy, joyful and friendly.
Opening our hearts to others seems to be a very difficult task nowadays but it is the only way to really see each other for who we really are, without judgment, without prejudice, without fear and limitations. We are all sacred beings and we have come to this earth to become one with all that exists and to grow and evolve as spiritual beings.
We are all here learning how to re-connect with the Infinite source that created us so don’t waste anymore time and begin walking the path of compassion, love & surrender to the sacredness within yourself and human kind.
In love and gratitude,
Namaste
Karla Solano
Namaste is an ancient Sanskrit word used to salute one another in Buddhist and Hindu religions. This salutation is very meaningful in the sense that it allows us to connect with other human beings in a much deeper level….at the soul level; where the heart truly opens up and surrenders completely, leaving the ego aside to allow the blossoming union between two individuals.
Namaste means “'I honor that place in you where the whole Universe resides.
And when I am in that place in me and you are in that place in you, there is only one of us.'
Namaste recognizes the equality of everyone, and pays honor and respect to the sacredness of all things. Connecting with the sacred being within each person we encounter is a very powerful way to bond with others because it allows us to put focus on the beauty and greatness that we all are capable of being, instead of the flaws created by the illusion of our egos.
When we connect with others from our heart in an energetically deeper level, we can create a very peaceful and loving environment for ourselves. I can speak from personal experience and I can honestly say that I’ve had to deal with very difficult people throughout my life as we all have, but until I began to fully comprehend and practice this concept of honoring the sacred being within each person, my relationships with those who I had a tough time dealing with have effortlessly become easy, joyful and friendly.
Opening our hearts to others seems to be a very difficult task nowadays but it is the only way to really see each other for who we really are, without judgment, without prejudice, without fear and limitations. We are all sacred beings and we have come to this earth to become one with all that exists and to grow and evolve as spiritual beings.
We are all here learning how to re-connect with the Infinite source that created us so don’t waste anymore time and begin walking the path of compassion, love & surrender to the sacredness within yourself and human kind.
In love and gratitude,
Namaste
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