No Expectations

Author
Karla Solano

We have been conditioned from childhood to have high expectations in every experience we go through. So much so, that very often we get lost in our own perception of how everything we go through should be a certain way. This way of thinking is very tricky and it can cause a lot of disillusion, especially when things don’t go as we planned it in our minds.

As human kind, we are used to getting ahead of ourselves, our brain is always playing different scenarios; getting us all worked up by imagining how things should or shouldn’t be. This behavior distorts our reality so much that we actually cause our own suffering and distress. This suffering takes place because we allow our minds to control our emotions and blow things out of proportion; with the false conviction that people and situations will abide by our egotistical point of view.

I am sure you can recall many moments where you have made up a fairy tale story about the people in your life, simply because they had a nice gesture towards you or because they acted a certain way. So you begin to fantasize and dream about all of the possibilities of what the outcome of your relationship with them will be.

Or what about the times when you put someone in a pedestal, just to find out that they were not who “you” thought they were, even though they never gave you a reason for you to put them so high up in the sky. You still allowed your mind to get your life out of focus. Thus, causing confusion and deception; just think about it! How many times have you caught yourself being so confident about something, telling the world how you know everything is the way you perceive it, but the truth is that it is all a false reality created by your own ego.

It is important not to let our minds run wild speculating and creating unreal scenarios, because allowing this false sense of conviction is very detrimental to our well being. We are impressionable beings and as such, we need to be very careful not to live in a lie. The worst thing about allowing ourselves to have high expectations about our experiences and others is that, we tend to blame everything and everyone else when things don’t go as we expected.

It is very useful to just let life take its natural course, by getting ourselves out of our own way and allowing the Divine source to take action in each situation we are faced with. There is no need to play movie director and obstruct the rhythm of our lives. Taking this approach will make it much easier to cope with everything and everyone that come our way. Thus, helping us stop with the obsession about what the future and people hold for us. Every time you see your mind wandering away in a fairy tale story, just simply allow the thoughts to take place and slowly begin to release the need to control all the situations in your life.

One thing very important to understand is that everything happens the way it needs to. Whether we like the outcome or not is irrelevant, the essential thing to consider is that life will happen according to our divine purpose. Therefore, the universe will make sure that the experiences and people we encounter are right for us at each specific stage of our lives so that we can learn the lessons that will guide us through our personal evolution.

There are no coincidences and everything happens for a reason, so why obsess about why things are taking place the way they are? Just let them be. Sooner or later life will unfold before your eyes, revealing the truth about each experience and the people in our existence. Focusing our attention in the journey instead of the destination is the best way to let go of the need to always makeup our own ending to the story of our lives.